elementary school was like “hell yeah”. middle school was like “hell no”. and high school. high school is just “hell”
college is just “what the hell”
and as far as i can tell life after college is just “to hell with it”
An open letter to the ‘nice guy’ who tried to hit me because I stopped him from taking home a drunk girl who was begging him to leave her alone (or: why you should never ask a poet if she’s really an ugly cocksucker or if that’s just her day job):
The thing is, everyone assumes that by taking away our rights, you make us weak.
In reality, just the opposite occurs. We are used to the sling of insults - there is nothing you can say that hasn’t already been said to me. We are used constantly being on the outlook for our aggressor - so yes, I can spot an asshole from across the room and it’s because I often have to.
The thing is: you are making our skins thicker and our spines stronger than anyone who doesn’t have to put up with the shit that we do. We are the same generation that can wear pretty dresses and cut up your corpse in the same moment: because trust me, we know how to get blood out of our clothing.
You think women are little helpless flowers but I know at least a quarter of my lady friends with self-defense classes under their belts, at least half who can fight their way out of a chokehold with nothing but their carkeys like daggers in their fists, at least three-fourths who are so used to any kind of slur you can throw at them that they have four witty comebacks just resting on their backburners, and all of them - all of them - are baptized in the fire of another person’s violation, whether verbal or otherwise. You are not making the submissive housewives or the shy secretaries of your wet dreams. You have made dragons.
You have made mothers with sharp teeth who can balance eight different tasks and still remember your favorite dinner. You have made CEOs who do better work because they’re used to being told they’re sub-par. You are making artists and poets and musicians who’ve seen the dark in the world. You are making social justice warriors - I use this not as a defamation but as a banner, as the way they brand themselves because it is a battle, isn’t it, and nobody’s come out without their share of scars - you are making a generation of caustically beautiful ladies who have seen more shit by six a.m. than you have all your life and they still walk better in heels than you do in your boat shoes.
We do not invite your ‘nice guy’ into our beds, you’re right, because the nice guys of our lives have been our fathers asking us if we ‘are really going out in that,’ have been our best friend telling us that his girlfriend should give up sex because he’s paid for dinner, have been our uncles and brothers and the great gentlemen who hang out of their cars and laugh when the thirteen-year-old they just honked at jumps and looks terrified (but should totally accept the compliment as if it was a gift instead of the moment she recognizes she’s never going to be safe) -
you wanna know why we don’t let nice men into our beds? Because we rarely find them.
They’re out there, I know it, but they’re not the ones wetting themselves when a woman asks ‘why do you think that?’ instead of sitting back and letting him laugh with his buddies about femi-nazis. They’re out there and they’re probably as pissed as we are that at least one third of their population has openly admitted there are times when they think it’s okay to force their significant other to have sex: they’re out there, and the sad thing is, if you’re a male, you’re statistically not one of them. As far as we know, you don’t exist. You are a white knight only you believe in.
Here’s the thing about forcing people down: eventually they’re going to get strong enough to push right on back, and when you’ve spent the whole time sitting on your ass sinking your teeth into your healthy wage gap, you’re not going to be ready for it.
You’ve hurt us, over and over. When the time comes for us to hurt back, do you know how many of us are going to ask ‘Where was the mercy when I was begging like he is now? Where was that mercy when I got pregnant? Where was that mercy when I was called selfish for being a single parent? Where was that mercy when he forced himself on me? Where was that mercy, in anything?’
The thing about oppression is that it can only last for so long. You are not making yourself dominant, you’re making yourself weak. I’ve seen men crumble because they feel uncomfortable when they get hit on by other men as if the stench of their own mistakes is strangling them. I’ve seen them get impassioned because a teacher preferred females and I’ve laughed because I had eight other classes where it was reversed and in all of those eight, it went uncontested. I have legitimately punched a boy who said that a show for girls was shameful because it tries to teach lessons instead of catering to his desire for sex - as if just by liking something, he owns it. I’ve seen boys growl about women’s history month and had to wonder if they’ve ever held a textbook where the only names of girls are tiny footnotes. I’ve seen fathers ask why the curriculum I use for my six-year-olds is carefully gender neutral, why I let his son play at cooking or his daughter be a doctor.
I have never heard a mother complain except to beg me to get her little girl to talk more, to do more, to succeed - do you see? Do you see?
Here’s the thing about stepping on us: we have learned to stop licking your boots
and now we want to ruin you.
trust me, I know actual nice guys and they are nothing like your type. p.s your fly was down the whole time. /// r.i.d (via inkskinned)
This just in, dragons are a new symbol of femininity and I am down for that.
#ooo #good #yes #excellent #standing ovation #preach #feminism #rape culture #'nice' guys
#hngggggg #yes #bbs #marvel otp #aka the bestest #better with queue
Leslie/Ann quotes applied to Joan and Sherlock.
"No! I am dissecting a body in the middle of the night. We are NOT having a moment! "
"No offense, Watson! but I don’t remember you having a medical degree in feelings!"
#ahahahahah #yes #love both duos #whatever i ship them both #because of adorable reasons
Sometimes I have the time and patience to get from an idea to a fully fleshed-out, penciled, inked and coloured comic.
Sometimes I don’t.
if you’ve ever wondered “dang why are all those feminists so angry all the time”
read this comic
#lol #yes #oh well #sorry kids #gpoy
why is this post ruining my dashboard again
i’m so glad about this
okay so especially in the two towers, any time legolas is not the focus of a shot, particularly in Helm’s Deep, he makes the greatest faces
like this one especially
i’m calling it Background Legolas and i want it to become a thing now
This is the best post. omg.
#omg #yes #lmao #legolas #lord of the rings #congratulations on your face
David: So if Rose was a whore, would the Doctor have taken her on?
David: I think he’d take her as he found her.
Everyone: *Uncontrolled laughter*
David: You are all dirty, dirty people!
#yes #lol #well yeah #bless his innocent heart
#ahahaha #yes #can she just be in all the things? #but definitely as bilbo #please #lucy liu
i love how it’s totally obvious that sherlock respects watson and expects her in his life; but what i adore about elementary is that they’re able to be quite subtle about it. even though sherlock is storming off in a huff, he absolutely expects that watson is right behind him AND he automatically holds the door open for her, which is an inherent sign of respect
#AHAHAHA #yes #i approve of this #although i'd replace the first must have with more kirk and bones bitching and being bffs #and also more spock/uhura #although i'd kind of also love for mccoy and uhura to bond over their exasperation of the kirk/spock friendship #star trek
“How you love you, how you see you, how you treat you is going to set the stage AND issue the invitation that will draw other people in to love you.”
#the speed on these gifs hurts my eyes #and my brain #but the words coming out of this lady's mouth #yes #words to live by